Become that person...

Becoming that Person…..

Is as easy as one two 3….becoming someone you’re not takes not a year, a day or a month. It takes a subconscious decision you make every time you fight and argue your way through life, every time you try to voice out your opinions, feelings or objections.

Becoming that person doesn’t take much. At times, it is as hard and as easy as taking a horse ride and trying to force it to have a drink knowing well it has made up its mind against doing so. At times, we become so focused at pointing out what went wrong, what is going wrong and how it went wrong and focus less on how to fix things, make amends, rebuild the bridges we’ve burnt and add value to friendships, relationships, family ties, brotherhood and sisterhoods. What is the point of lamenting on the past if one doesn’t make means to fix the present and build for the future? Is there a need to highlight others shortcomings or pointing and singling out all that is wrong and offer no solutions or a resolutions? I believe that makes you not person poised at moving forward, but makes you part of the problem and adds more frustrations than necessary.

If it weren’t for our traits as humans to falter every now and then, none of us would stand out or make any form of an impression on others, encourage others to change for the better, inspire others to be better than what they are or motivate others to inspire others. Each one help one, but the first form of help starts with self, spreads with dedication and blossoms with commitment.

Commit to yourself, commit yourself to your believes, commit to your values.

Becoming that person can be a good or bad thing depending on how that person shares his/her values with the world.

Once upon a time, when our innocence was intact, we knew nothing about betrayal. We knew less about success, yet wanted it. We knew pain, but never paid much attention to it for the affection we got from the same people who dished out the beatings, be it verbal or physical, was too overwhelming to forget about the love they had for us and wouldn’t let us dwell on the momentary lashings they handed out.

Once upon a time, before our minds got diluted with the standards of success the world has set, we knew less about “individualism within a team”. We knew less about egos and how easy they could be inflated and how hard they’d affect us should they not be stroked and caressed.

Back then, not so long ago, we worked as a collective, never voiced out any frustrations, aimed to resolve them in silence till it became too much to bare. Till we woke up and we’ve become that person; those people; those brothers,sisters,aunts and uncles that everybody hates and we tried hard not to become.

We woke up full of criticism, anger, frustrations and verbal constipation. We woke up with minds clouded by perception, restrictions brought about fear of disappointing others. We woke up with hearts full of grief, self pity, resentment and traces or hatred.

Becoming that person is as easy as not acknowledging that life is what you make it out to be. That how you decide to handle what happens in it is entirely your choice and that you are as free as the day you decided to stand up for what you believe in.

Becoming that person can be a good or a bad thing, depending on how and where you got your mind focused.

Learning to let go....nobody said it will be easy, nobody said it will be impossible either.